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Gentlemen, Where Are You?

I recently heard the following verbally spoken in public:

“A nasty guy”

“Lies like a dog over and over again”

“Failed. He’s so awkward and goofy”

“Looks like a little boy. A perfect puppet”

“Lazy. All talk and no action”

“He’s a loser”

You might imagine these words spoken by children on a playground, or by an immature, angry teenager who has deep, personal insecurities.

Sadly, all the above put downs, name calling, and insults were spoken by a well-known figure; a father of five; a man who is wealthy and wants for nothing; a man who should recognize his blessings; a man who should have the mindset of uplifting others because he has achieved so much.

All the words above were said by a candidate for the most powerful office in the world – The President of the United States. They were spoken by Donald Trump.

Donald Trump

Surprisingly, many people support Trump despite his negative rhetoric. However, Donald Trump is certainly not the only candidate who has resorted to such abrasive language.

At a recent political rally another presidential candidate, Marco Rubio, stated this about rival, Donald Trump: “he doesn’t sweat because his pores are clogged from the spray tan. Donald Trump isn’t gonna make America great, he’s gonna make America orange.”

As if personal attacks are not bad enough, other candidates say things by way of speculation knowing they may be reported as truth. For instance, another candidate, Ted Cruz suggested that Trump’s tax returns may show his connection to the mafia.

What in the world has happened to respectful competition? Where have all the gentlemen gone? Where can we find courtesy and civility  in conversation, and especially in positions of leadership?

There is a CRISIS of LEADERSHIP in our country and throughout our society!

In his last State of the Union address, President Obama commented, “The language, the spirit has become meaner than when I came in.”

I believe President Obama is right. I also believe he has a role to play in that meanness.

Barak Obama

Marco Rubio, a sitting Senator (part of the president’s team) remarked, “This president has been the single most divisive political figure this country has had over the last decade.”

Another congressman (team member) said, “There probably has not been a more racially-divisive, economic-divisive president in the White House since we had presidents who supported slavery.”

These are a few members of the president’s legislative team who see him as a non-collaborative leader. I recognize that the United States has become a two-party political system, but it seems to me this has come to mean that a line has been drawn in the sand, and whatever side you call yours is the only one with good ideas, and no possible work can happen together for the COMMON good of both sides.

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True leaders are those who inspire their team to achieve noble results by bringing all ideas to the table and finding common ground to build on. President Obama appears to have done the opposite.

During his presidential campaign, Barack Obama was heard to say, “After we win this election, it’s our turn. Payback time. Everyone not with us is against us, and they better be ready because we don’t forget. The ones who helped us will be rewarded; the ones who opposed us will get what they deserve. There is going to be hell to pay.”

Does that kind of language build trust and rapport with people who have a different view than you do? Does that inspire people to WANT to work with you? Is that what an exceptional LEADER would say?
Before he took office in 2009, knowing half his “team” (Republicans) had a different view from his own, he said of them, “…it’s not surprising then that they get bitter, they cling to guns or religion or antipathy to people who aren’t like them or anti-immigrant sentiment or anti-trade sentiment as a way to explain their frustrations.”

 

LEADERSHIP is in decline in America! Kindness and courtesy have been forgotten. Respect and friendship are characteristics that no longer seem important. We are in big trouble, America!

Is it any wonder then, that candidates running for office are immature and unkind to each other? I’m not blaming the president; I’m blaming the ideas of “tolerance” and “equality” that have been buzz words for so many years.

We are expected to be tolerant of the viewpoints and diversity of others, yet it seems that those who preach tolerance the loudest are those who practice it the least.

I’m all for acceptance, love, and respect for ALL PEOPLE, and I sincerely apply these characteristics in all I do. However, I feel forced to tolerate ideas that bring people down instead of lift them up, and when I disagree with certain policies or ideas, I am labeled a hater.

I can’t possibly support ANY of the candidates for president because NONE of them have actually shown proof they can lead with civility and collaboration. Does that mean I hate them? Of course not.

Anyone who would accuse another of hate is most definitely more hateful than the one being accused.

The democratic side of the aisle has offered Hilary Clinton, who has most surely put herself above the law, and who has been dishonest; and Bernie Sanders, who has never governed anything, and who claims he will undo the US Constitution – the ONLY reason we are the exceptional nation we are.

These are the choices we have to make in this current election: individuals who are immature, disrespectful, dishonest, inexperienced, uncivil, and divisive. Great, huh?

A more courteous, kind, and loving society will only happen when we personally are more courteous, kind, and loving. It starts with you. It starts with me. It deepens its roots in our homes. It blossoms as we lead in an exceptional way. It comes to fruition when we see each other as children of God – valued and important, albeit different.

LEADERSHIP IS IN CRISIS! WHAT WILL YOU DO?

What are YOU going to do to decrease hurtful words, meanness and disrespect?

What are YOU going to do to increase your ability to be more courteous, kind and loving?

Our country needs more gentlemen and gentlewomen. We need YOU!

My book. SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional offers some ideas to become exceptional. I hope you’ll read it and tell me what you think.

Sally read my book and said:

This was a wonderful read that held my interest, from beginning to end. I loved how Jackie used her personal and family experiences, throughout her life, to make it *real* and motivational as well. From this book, I actually learned that I have been somewhat of a leader for most of my life. I now know how to do it more effectively and with “full engagement”. By saying “Yes”, I will open my life to more experience and value. I will now strive for exceptional leadership, using the tools that I have learned in this book. I am excited and inspired! Thank you, Jackie. I am very grateful.

 

 

 

 

 

“Keep believing, there’s no doubt in my mind, bro.”

Russell Wilson | Seattle SeahawksRussell Wilson, Quarterback for the next Super Bowl champs, the Seattle Seahawks, was mic’ed during the teams last game with the Green Bay Packers.

This video is a shortened version of the event.  In the last four minutes of the game, when it appeared that the Seahawks would lose the game, Russell led his team, against all odds, to victory.

He said the following, impactful statements in those last four minutes:

“We can still win this game, stay in it”

“Man, I want it! I hate losing!”

“Make a play! Make a play!”

“Keep believing, there’s no doubt in my mind, bro.”

“Live for the situation, live for it.”

“C’mon let’s go D! LET’S GO! LET’S GO!

After a winning touchdown that caused the Seattle Seahawks to win the NFC Championship game, Russell Wilson was heard to say…

“I told you, I told you. Thank you, Jesus”

“God made me for it, man. God made me for it.”

Russell Wilson 12 Man

Russell then grabbed a 12th Man flag and showed genuine appreciation for the fans that have so endlessly supported their Hawks!

1. Appreciation to God and Jesus

2. Appreciation to the fans

Wilson’s ability to lead, influence and inspire his team – and his fans –  is incredible.

I have learned a great deal from watching Russell Wilson.  What have you learned?

Go Sea Hawks | Superbowl

 

Reason #13 – How to Communicate with Credibility

Would you believe this is a picture of me?

Empowerment | Communication | LeadershipJackie Bailey | Emerald City Consulting

This is me today.

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, I relate a story which took place many years ago.  I was in disguise and dressed like am I in the top picture above.

The experience I had was interesting, and fraught with lessons.

Spoiler alert – the police were dispatched! 

Read my book to learn how my story – and YOUR story – teaches you how to communicate with credibility.

Have YOU ever been treated differently because of how you looked???

If you’ve missed any of the 30 reasons to read my book, they are listed here…..

Reason #30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

Reason #29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

Reason #28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

Reason #27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

Reason #26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

Reason #25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

Reason #24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

Reason #23Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

Reason #22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

Reason #21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.  Didn’t know you were in a fishbowl?  Well….you are.

Reason #20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

Reason #19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

Reason #18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

Reason #17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

Reason #16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

Reason #15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

Reason #14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

 

Overcoming Regrets: Reason #26 for Reading SELF Centered Leadership

On this day before Thanksgiving here in America, I thought it appropriate to talk about a nemesis of gratitude.  Regret.

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We all have regrets.  Although regret tends to be a negative-energy emotion, it can inspire change.

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, I tell you about my greatest regret.

The story has to do with friends and bullies; protection and victimization; courage and fear.  Perhaps it will inspire you.

Have you missed reasons 27 through 30 in my countdown?

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

Reason #27: How to Apply The Three P’s of Empowerment

Have a Happy Thanksgiving!  Be grateful for your challenges – they form your character and inspire growth!

Tough decision? There’s An APP for That!

Life.  It’s a daily process of decision making.

  1. Should I wear blue or green?
  2. Should I drive to work or ride my bike?
  3. Should I quit my job and go live on the beach in Hawaii?  Or, maybe Tahiti?

Hawaii

Rory Vaden may call you a Should-Head for asking those questions.   He is the author of one of my favorite books, Take the Stairs.

Making decisions can be tough.  Sometimes, it’s not a matter of good versus bad.  Sometimes, making a decision is a matter of good, better and best.

I address the task of good, better and best decision making in my upcoming book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  I share an APP to help you determine which option is the best one when faced with a decision.

Having access to my APP is reason #28 for reading my book.  It will be available soon.

I realize that you may have another daily decision to make:

  • Should I read Jackie’s book or not?

Since you won’t have the APP to help you with your decision until you get the book, I have begun a countdown of reasons WHY you should read SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

(Be sure to use the links to read previous posts)

And today’s reason, #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

More reasons to come.  But for now, have a successful decision-making day!  See you in Hawaii?

Reason 29 – Spotting the Imitation

Imitation

I once sold a fake cake to a grocery store customer.  I didn’t know it was fake at the time.

I didn’t realize that the bakery personnel routinely decorated pieces of Styrofoam to look like real cake.

In my upcoming book, I address some aspects of life that have become imitators of happiness.  You may have been fooled once, but after reading my book, you’ll be on the lookout for forgeries everywhere!

By reading my book you’ll learn how to:

SPOT the IMITATION

That is reason #29 for reading SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  That’s the title of my book.

If you missed Reason #30 for reading my book, it is that:

You will learn how to prepare for, AND survive, an ODYSSEY.



I hope these two reasons make you want to read my book.  But if not, there are 28 more reasons coming in my blog.

Stay tuned……