Tag Archives: Love | Leadership | Service | Acceptance | Forgiveness | Engagement

Leadership on the Field – Go Hawks!

Sports metaphors are used to teach leadership more than perhaps any other method.  I think the reason for that is obvious – team situations provide grounds for learning to follow, and learning to lead.

My NFL team, the Seattle Seahawks is going to the SUPER BOWL for the second year in a row!  That gives me perfectly good reason to use a sports metaphor about leadership.

Pete Carroll | Seahawks coach

Pete Carroll – I call him re-Pete Carroll – is the head coach for the Hawks.  The quarterback is Russell Wilson.  Two great men who have been on a leadership odyssey, and whom have proven to be outstanding in their field.  The football field.  Actually, I suppose they weren’t standing.  They were running in their field.  They couldn’t win if they were just standing…..

Coach Carroll has coached many players on many teams.  His odyssey finally brought him to Seattle, and it has been his leadership that has influenced a winning team.

In a recent article by Pat Kirwan titled, Super Bowl 49: How Pete Carroll Came to Mold Champion Seahawks, the author describes how Pete Carroll possess the SELF leadership traits that make exceptional leaders.  Sacrifice, Empowerment, Love and Friendship.

Sacrifice – The article states, His players find it difficult to believe his age (63) because of his energy level. Whether it’s running around at practice, or looking for a player to go one on one with on the basketball court, he never seems to drag.

“I never saw him yawn around the office late at night working on a game plan,” one of his coaches said the other day.

It takes sacrifice of sleep, time and energy to coach a football team of grown men.  The expectations are tremendous.  Coach Carroll obviously understands the sacrifice, and gladly accepts it all for the sake of influencing the team.

Empowerment – His ability to understand his players, and to teach them how to not only work hard, but refocus when necessary is described in the article this way –  The competitive spirit of Seahawks practices has been well-chronicled, but what is unique about his upbeat workouts — going back to his USC days — are his attempts to distract players (open-to-the-public workouts, blaring music) to teach focus. There’s even a basketball hoop in the team’s big meeting room. Players are regularly trying to make a shot. On the spur of the moment he stops meetings, calling for a shooting contest.

The last time I was there, the kickers beat the defensive line and the players erupted with cheers and boos, only to settle down seconds later and refocus.

Love – Service is the key to leadership, and even in a testosterone-high environment, exceptional leaders find time to serve unrelated to the job.  Pete Carroll is an example of charitable love.  The article states….

1. When he coached the Patriots, my cousin — a big Patriots fan — was diagnosed with cancer. Carroll called every week and convinced my cousin he’d get better, keeping his hopes alive. My cousin got better and never forgot Carroll’s efforts.

2. When Carroll was looking for a strength and conditioning coach at USC, he got a call from Chris Carlisle. Carlisle disclosed he had cancer, to which Carroll responded: “Then get out here and get to work so you get better.”

3. One night when we were driving home from work and saw a car with a flat tire on the side of the road. A mother and her two boys were standing outside the car, looking upset. Upon noticing the boys were wearing Steelers shirts, Carroll said to pull over. When he got out of the car, he said we’d fix the flat if the boys traded their Steelers gear for Jets shirts.

Friendship – Pete Carroll is concerned about his friends – even those who work for him  – Loyalty to staff members shows up in his efforts to get them better jobs than they already have. I asked him about losing a few assistants because of the Seahawks’ success, and he said he was trying to help two more assistants get coordinator jobs.

Pete Carroll is an exceptional leader.  He has mastered well the SELF-ish leaderSacrifice, Empowerment, Love and Friendship.  I believe we’ll see examples of all four traits on the field this Sunday at the Super Bowl.

Go Hawks!

Go Sea Hawks | Superbowl

Never Fail at This One Thing – Reason 1

If you’re like me, you want to be successful in all you do.  And, like me, you’ve probably also learned that success does not come without failure.

Thomas Edison

Thomas Edison was told by his teacher, “You’re too stupid to learn anything.”

Edison then went on to hold more than 1000 patents and invented life-changing devices like the phonograph, electric lamp, and movie camera.

Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first television anchor job.  Forbes now estimates her worth to be 2.9 billion dollars, and she’s the undisputed queen of television talk shows.

Walt Disney

Walt Disney was told by a newspaper editor that he “…lacked imagination and had no good ideas”.  However, my childhood, and those of millions of children in the last 50 years, have been enhanced by the talents and ideas of Mr. Disney.

These are examples of failure (or at least, perceived failure at the time) that is sometimes experienced before success comes to fruition.

We may fail, or be only partly successful at the goals we attempt to reach, or in the accomplishments we set out to achieve.  Most of us will not invent a life-changing device, or become the king or queen of talk-show television.

But the truth is – we can be 100% successful in ONE THING!  What is that fail-proof thing?  You’ll have to read my book to find out!

SELF Centered Leadership is an easy, fun read.  My message is inspiring because it resonates truth.  I write of four traits you should master if you want to be exceptional.

My book is available on AMAZON and on my EMERALD CITY CONSULTING website.

In this post I have revealed the number one reason to read my book – never fail at this one thing again!

There are at least 29 other reasons to read SELF Centered Leadership listed below.  It’s easy to click on the links and learn all 30 reasons….

So why haven’t you purchased it yet?

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

#4 – Know the SECRET to get out of bed on those tough day.

#3 – Witness the Power of YES!

#2 – Achieving STYX-to-it-ness!

Service is the Best Medicine – Reason #6

The Unlimited Love Institute researched the question: “Does the unselfish love of others contribute to the happiness, health and resilience of those who give it?”

They discovered the answer is YES!  They report:

“….Contributing to the lives of others allows those who love their neighbor to flourish by living an active life free from preoccupation with the self…self destructive emotions, lack of purpose, loneliness or isolation”.

The Jewish philosopher Martin Buber noted, “…We can pretend that we are the center of the universe, and fail; …or we can relate to others in love and respect.”

In my book, I testify using personal experience how SERVICE and LOVE kept me alive!  Service was a medicine that healed.

Martin Luther King Jr. noted, “Everybody can be great….because anybody can serve.  You don’t have to have a college degree to serve.  You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.  You only need a heart full of grace.  A soul generated by love.”

If you appreciate the sentiments of the Unlimited Love Institute, Martin Buber and Martin Luther King, Jr., then you will LOVE chapter four in my book, SELF Centered Leadership.

It is now for sale on Amazon and CreateSpaceIf you want to serve others, please purchase my book at www.smile.amazon.com and choose the charity Oral Cancer Cause, and Amazon will donate 5% of your purchase to this worthy foundation that helps cancer patients during treatment.

You will see that service truly is the best medicine!

“How Can I Help?” – Reason #11 to Read SELF Centered Leadership

How many times have you said to someone, “Let me know if I can help….”?

If you’re like most people (me included), you have good intentions to help another, but there are times when you really don’t know what you can do.

How many times has someone actually responded with a way you can help?  It’s very common for the one on the intended receiving end to also not know how you can help.  Quite a dilemma indeed.

There is a section in my book called “The Rest of the Story”.  In this part of SELF Centered Leadership, I offer many practical ways you can help someone in need.  This is reason #11 to read my book.  You can actually make good on your good intentions!

Go ahead, ask me if there is anything you can do for me………

Well, thank you for asking!  Yes!  I would be ever so grateful if you were to purchase a few copies of my book and gift one to yourself and the rest to others.  You would be doing a great kindness to me, setting yourself on a worthwhile course, AND providing a valuable gift to someone else.

Last of all – please remember to write a review on AMAZON after you’ve made your purchase.

Tomorrow, I will post reason #10!  I am almost done with my 30 Reasons to Read Countdown!  I hope you have found this countdown helpful, and that you find my book a worthwhile read.  If you’re still not convinced to buy it, there are 10 more reasons coming!  Stay tuned……

Reason #16 for reading SELF Centered Leadership

This time of year, we are more familiar with CHARITY.  We see examples of people doing good deeds for others unselfishly and anonymously.  I think these charitable acts inspire the “spirit” of Christmas that we often hear about, and look so forward to feeling.

How do we have that charitable, brotherly love?

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I spend am entire chapter talking about love – charitable, brotherly love.  Wouldn’t it be great to feel that “spirit” all year long?

If you read my book, you’ll learn how!

SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional is available NOW on Amazon in paperback and Kindle.  Check it out!

After your purchase, be sure to write a review!  I want to know how the book influenced your SELF!

Please comment below with a experience you’ve had with charitable love – whether giving or receiving…..

Your Influence x 10!


Highway Signpost Influence

That’s my word.  That’s the one word that defines all aspects of leadership.  How do you know if you “have it”?

Oh….you have it!  In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I explain how INFLUENCE is the very first trait we’re born with, and how we strengthen our influence throughout our lives.

As a matter of fact, in my book, I list 10 ways that you influence others and don’t even know it!

That is the next reason on my list of 30 reasons for reading SELF Centered Leadership.  You will learn the 10 ways you INFLUENCE!

The book makes a great gift for anyone 12 and up!  It is fraught with stories that are entertaining and informative.  So, if the reasons below aren’t enough to make you want to read my book, then be patient – there are 13 more coming!

Reason #30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

Reason #29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

Reason #28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

Reason #27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

Reason #26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

Reason #25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

Reason #24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership (although you may have gotten a hint from today’s post)

Reason #23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

Reason #22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

Reason #21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.  Didn’t know you were in a fishbowl?  Well….you are.

Reason #20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

Reason #19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

Reason #18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

Reason #17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

So what are you waiting for?  Go buy the book!



The SAFE Way to Love – Reason #19 to Read SELF Centered Leadership

Reason #19 to read:

SELF Centered Leadership LOGO

…is to learn how to love in a SAFE way.

Loving yourself is hard enough.  Then you have to master the ability to love others.  I talk about these two types of love in my upcoming book.  AND I provide a SAFE way for you to do both.

SAFE is an acronym for the four steps to loving.  The A is for Acceptance.

In my book I share a story about my friend, Carol.  She died when she was three, visited with God, and came back with 32 personalities.  She is an amazing example of someone who had to ACCEPT life and all the painful circumstances that it holds so she could LOVE as she was meant to.

I hope you will read my book.  It will be out very soon.

Please comment below about your advice on LOVE.  Be sure to click on the box to receive notice of new blog posts here – that way you’ll learn ALL 30 reasons for reading my book.

In case you’ve missed any, here they are:

#30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

#29: How to spot the IMITATION

#28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

#27: How to Apply the Three P’s of Empowerment

#26: How to overcome regrets

#25: How to be a leadership HERO

#24: Learn the one-word definition of leadership

#23: Learn the sting of friendship

#22: How to be exceptional

#21: How to rise to the top of your fishbowl

#20: How you can empower your life




Tough decision? There’s An APP for That!

Life.  It’s a daily process of decision making.

  1. Should I wear blue or green?
  2. Should I drive to work or ride my bike?
  3. Should I quit my job and go live on the beach in Hawaii?  Or, maybe Tahiti?


Rory Vaden may call you a Should-Head for asking those questions.   He is the author of one of my favorite books, Take the Stairs.

Making decisions can be tough.  Sometimes, it’s not a matter of good versus bad.  Sometimes, making a decision is a matter of good, better and best.

I address the task of good, better and best decision making in my upcoming book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  I share an APP to help you determine which option is the best one when faced with a decision.

Having access to my APP is reason #28 for reading my book.  It will be available soon.

I realize that you may have another daily decision to make:

  • Should I read Jackie’s book or not?

Since you won’t have the APP to help you with your decision until you get the book, I have begun a countdown of reasons WHY you should read SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

(Be sure to use the links to read previous posts)

And today’s reason, #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

More reasons to come.  But for now, have a successful decision-making day!  See you in Hawaii?

Love Is All You Need

The Beatles

Love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love

There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done
Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It’s easy

Nothing you can make that can’t be made
No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It’s easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love,
love Love is all you need

“All You Need is Love” ~ The Beatles
Gary Glitter, Paul Mccartney, Mike Leander, John Lennon

There are as many ways to love as there are people on planet Earth. As human beings, we feel emotions that to one person may be love, but to another may be respect, admiration, or pity.  There are no meters that measure love, and no way to confirm that someone is feeling love.

Although many poets, play writes and musicians have written about love, the emotion itself is very personal. You are the only one that knows how it feels when you experience love.

2014-8-13 Cory and Jenny gazing embrace

I recently witnessed an event that represents love – a wedding. My son was married last Saturday to someone whom he’d only known for three months.  As they both shared their experiences of “falling in love”, their stories were similar.

“I just knew he/she was the ONE”.

Very sweet, indeed. And quite contrary to the occasions witnessed when people “fall out of love”.

Sadly, a divorce also occurred in my family recently. The breakup of a family who loved once, but don’t love now is a difficult one.  Two extremes of love – the growing of love, and the dying of love.

There is an aspect of love in leadership as well. If you are to become an exceptional leader, you must understand how it feels to love, and why it is important to love.  Leadership will test your love.

The type of love needed to lead and influence others is not a romantic love, it is a charitable love; a compassionate love; a brotherly love.

As a Christian, I have learned the philosophy of love from the Bible and other scriptures. In The New Testament, Paul speaks about charity to the people of Corinth.  In my opinion, charity and the type of love needed to lead is interchangeable.

For this exercise, replace charity with love in the following scripture:

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth……

If you’re like me, you struggle with the desire to be successful in all you do. And, like me, you’ve probably also learned that success does not come without failure.  But we can be 100% successful in how we LOVE and in the CHARITY we have for others.  Feeling love, and acting out of love is NEVER a failure.


If you want to have consistent and guaranteed success in ALL that you do, then LOVE and CHARITY must be your greatest talent.

John Lennon said, “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life.  When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.  We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.  If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open our ability to love others or our potential to create”.

How do we gain the ability to love in leadership? I’ve defined a S.A.F.E. way to do so:

Service ~ Acceptance ~ Forgiveness ~ Engagement

Exceptional leadership can be yours when you S.A.F.E.ly master the attributes of service, acceptance, forgiveness and engagement.

I welcome you to share personal stories that relate to one or all of these topics.

Have you witnessed exceptional leaders portray one of these attributes?

Is it true that all you need is love?