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Being a Singer Leader

My husband and I are privileged to own a Singer sewing machine. We acquired the Singer 221-1 Portable Electric model years ago at a garage sale when I was quilting as a hobby. Oh, the memories….. Ahem, that’s a story for another blog post.

Singer 221-1 Portable Electric Sewing Machine

Many times through the years we’ve thought of selling our Singer. Each time we’ve brought it out of its place on the shelf to consider its value, I am amazed at the well-made, time-tested strength and beauty of a piece of equipment made for such functional reasons – making clothing.

The Singer 221-1 was born in 1946, and may have been the first electric sewing machine. It is built like a tank, and it’s capabilities rival any military instrument. Seriously, this machine is forged steel – not plastic, not fiberglass. Yet it is decorated with classic gold filigree. All the high-tech sewing machines in use today are patterned after the Singer.

It’s also important to consider the stamina of the Singer Company. Since 1851, the name Singer has been synonymous with sewing. The spirit of practical design and creative innovation that characterized the company at its beginning continues today as they develop products for every level of sewing.

The Singer website lists the firsts they’ve celebrated over the years:

  • The world’s first zig-zag machine
  • The first electronic machines
  • The world’s most advanced home sewing and embroidery machines

I learned to sew when I was 15. On my 16th birthday, I received my first sewing machine, and I made all my school clothes that senior year of high school. I even made my own wedding dress on that machine when I married at age 19. I can truly appreciate the functional aspect of a well-made, multiple function sewing machine.

With my bridal party on my wedding day wearing the dress I made myself

I also appreciate leadership in its purest form, and leaders who provide examples of time-tested traits that help them develop strong leadership skills in others.

A multitude of leaders are mentioned in my book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional. Like the Singer sewing machine, these leaders are made of forged steel and have influenced the lives of others – even empowered the lives of others.

  • Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • John Quincy Adams
  • John C. Maxwell
  • Dwight D. Eisenhower
  • Tony Dungy
  • Ralph Smedley

If you are unfamiliar with any of these influential leaders, I invite you to study up on them. They provide powerful examples of characteristics of leadership we should all strive for. Characteristics such as consensus, inspiration, action, knowledge, work, engagement, respect, strategy, empowerment, and service.

Like a Singer sewing machine, the value of an exceptional leader will never decrease. The leader will be ever-changing, ever innovating, and ever-expanding, yet the pattern of influence and strength will be steadfast and constant.

Are you that type of leader?

What would YOUR team say about you?

How do you feel when you lead?

Does your influence empower others?

Have you considered your leadership strengths and weaknesses?

Let me know your answers to these questions. Let’s take you down from the shelf, dust you off, and consider your leadership value. Let’s plug you in, turn you up, and help you create a new outfit – a stronger leadership style, and a steadfastness in innovation and empowerment. Let’s make you a Singer – Leader!

Oh, and by the way, are you in the market for a Singer sewing machine? All offers considered…

Spoons Should Be Outlawed and Other Crazy Ideas

I’ve been writing this leadership blog for several years. Today’s post is personal. It may sound political. It may sound religious. It may even sound judgmental. No matter how you interpret it, this post is MY opinion and I own it! At it’s core, it is about leadership. I invite you to weigh in whether you agree or disagree.

In the wake of another mass shooting at a school, there are many questions being asked. The leader of our nation, President Obama gave his personal opinion shortly after the tragedy at UCC in Roseburg Oregon last week. In listening to his message, I witnessed a “leader” who displayed traits that disqualify him as such.

President Obama didn’t put ANY responsibility on the young man who cowardly shot a dozen or more unarmed individuals, and killed 9 of them. Instead, he used the power of his office to blame society – a society he has had direct influence over for more than seven years. A society that has become more divided than it was when he took office seven years ago.

Mr. Obama took opportunity to blame his team members in congress (yes, Mr. President we are all on the same team even though you refuse to acknowledge that) He blamed guns. He blamed inanimate objects for the murder of human beings. How does that even make sense? Do automobiles cause car accidents? Do spoons make people fat? Are sidewalks the cause of childhood scrapes?

I’d like to see Mr. Obama, (or anyone else) file a lawsuit against a gun, a car, a spoon, or a sidewalk. As ridiculous as it sounds – his remarks, blame, and shift of responsibility are just as ridiculous. True, exceptional leaders don’t blame their team, and they don’t pass judgment prematurely.

The President tends to put blame on anyone else but the actual person whose actions inspired the outcome. Take a moment to recall Treyvon Martin, Michael Brown, and Freddy Gray. Precious lives lost due to their own choices. They put themselves in a position where their life was threatened because of their own actions – not the actions of police officers or other people. We don’t yet know the outcome of the Freddy Gray case, but he was a known drug dealer, and therefore his choices long ago took him down a road that led to his final destination.

Despite the facts, President Obama has been responsible for influencing people (through his poor leadership and message) to divide our nation rather than unite us. HE has made the aforementioned cases about race, instead of about criminals clashing with police or citizens, resulting in unfortunate deaths.

With a severe lack of respect for police officers and those in authority in our nation, there are people on the fringe of society who will use that situation to justify their own evil. School shooters are that kind of evil. True leaders have to stand against evil and NEVER justify it.

True, exceptional leaders enjoy helping others empower their lives. They act to help individuals see their strengths, and encourage them to overcome weakness. Great leaders are grateful and show appreciation for the people who protect those who can’t protect themselves.

Here is how my philosophy differs from what I believe Mr. Obama’s philosophy seems to be.

My belief:

Humans are born as innocent children. These children learn quickly how to manipulate, cheat, and deceive. Seriously, the first truth a newborn learns is – “if I cry, I will be fed”.

You can see how we quickly learn to manipulate and influence the actions of others. We enjoy this manipulation and, generally speaking, if there was no discipline for breaking rules, we would all likely enjoy breaking them.

Rules however are necessary to a civil society.

As we grow, we learn that good choices will bring good consequences; while bad choices will bring unhappy consequences. (Touching a hot stove, for instance) This helps us learn that PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY is the key to our happiness – not anyone else. That knowledge helps us WANT to be good and we make choices accordingly.

My belief: Good choice = good consequence = personal empowerment

Obama’s belief (based on what he’s said and done):

Humans are born as innocent children. Everyone is good, and government knows how to care for everyone. Mr Obama thinks that government makes better teachers, managers, and parents. He seems to believe that rules are restrictions to who we are, and that if “I want it” then “I should have it”.

Our president believes that when someone makes a bad choice it is an indication that society failed this person. (In Obama’s belief system touching a hot stove would lead to a lawsuit against the stove company, which would then require all stoves to be locked until dinner, at which time children would not legally be allowed in the kitchen)

Mr. Obama believes society is to blame for hatred, poverty, and crime. He believes that if government legislates the way we speak to, speak of, and treat each other that we will all be equal, that it will all be fair, and that there will be no hatred, poverty or crime. In reality, this philosophy does exactly the opposite. Government takes away any reason to be good on our own, and therefore punishes ALL of us when ONE of us does something bad.

Obama’s belief: Bad choice = bad society = government empowerment

With that groundwork laid, please read why I believe these mass school shootings keep happening and how it relates to bad leadership which has influenced individuals in our society.

There are evil people who act in evil ways. When people don’t care about right or wrong, then wrong choices are right. When government is responsible for teaching what is right and wrong – based on the philosophy above – then evil people with evil intentions do evil acts. On the other hand, when morality is based on religious philosophy such as The Ten Commandments, people are empowered to govern themselves correctly.

Years ago government began changing the moral compass of our nation. We began to take a path toward political correctness instead of moral correctness. Schools were no longer allowed to use the word God. Then, we could no longer pray at school assemblies and sporting events. Teachers were instructed to stop teaching virtues such as humility, integrity, accountability, and faith. Children don’t even pledge allegiance to the flag of the nation who gives them the very freedoms they no longer see as important.

We’re at a point today where a 12 year-old girl can’t be given an aspirin by the school nurse without a parent’s permission, but the same girl CAN be taken to an abortion clinic without parental permission. RIDICULOUS!

And while we’re talking about morals – what does legal abortion teach our children? (Let’s face it, Planned Parenthood IS NOT an organization that has any interest in empowering women. They MAKE MONEY from abortions. Why would they ever suggest a different solution to a woman faced with a difficult choice?)

Abortion is violence. Unwanted pregnancy? Destroy the “problem”. Kill a fetus so YOU can be rid of something you don’t want. Planned Parenthood teaches that an unwanted pregnancy is an enemy to happiness and an inconvenience. Once it’s gone, all will be well – you’ll have a better life. TAKE A LIFE TO HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT.

Currently, our government FUNDS this organization, which is under investigation for selling human body parts. This is a travesty, Our leader, Mr. Obama has praised this organization – even saying “Thank God for Planned Parenthood”. Thank GOD? Are you serious? God has NOTHING to do with Planned Parenthood, and neither should our government. Bad leadership run amok!

Is it any wonder why young men who are on the fringe of society, and who have few friends, and who feel that society has in some way wronged them, choose to destroy other human beings that belong to that society? They have been taught that violence is the answer. TAKE A LIFE TO HAVE THE LIFE YOU WANT. A woman has the right to choose murder – why shouldn’t a man?

Mass shooters want to win. To them, that means “take as many people with you on the way out”. This is how they go from being unknown and faceless one day, to becoming famous the next. Violence and murder give them the life they want. And when our leader will blame their act on the inanimate object they used to commit the crime, instead of calling attention to the evil, cowardly person they were, that’s icing on the cake! Their legacy will leave a country more and more divided.

Then the president goes on television to blame society for one man’s heinous act. Not one mention is given to the brave men and women of law enforcement who brought the carnage to a halt. Why would he give them credit? Police officers are all part of the bad society that creates more bad people because of their brutality. That is the mindset of our president.

Should there be more stringent gun regulation?

In my opinion, there should be more responsible gun owners. In almost every case of a school mass shooting, the ONLY reason the evil cowards were stopped was because the police showed up with guns. It took a few good guys armed with legal weapons to stop evil people from killing more.

Gun-free zones are exactly the places where the evil cowards will go for their violent and murderous acts because they will encounter NO resistance. The students in schools are sitting ducks. There would be fewer mass shootings in schools if there were more guns in schools. I’m not suggesting that students are armed, but security guards should be, and there should be more security guards.

The next time President Obama sings his song of more gun regulation, I suggest someone ask him to take the guns from the security detail that protects him daily. Perhaps he’d then see what it’s like to live in the inner city of Chicago – his hometown – where gun laws are VERY strict yet the criminals have them – which accounts for the 2,322 gun deaths since January in Chicago. Innocent people cannot defend themselves. They are sitting ducks in a supposed “gun-free city”.

At its core, government is corrupt. The 2nd Amendment was put in place because of the fear of corrupt government. An armed citizenry would be able to protect themselves from a corrupt government.

There is no value system in our nation. Political correctness has all but removed the ability to teach values. Then we have young people who decide killing is the way to make a statement. We are to blame for electing leaders of our government who protect the rights of extremists who say, “Death to America and Israel” but ruin the livelihood of a baker who didn’t want to support a gay wedding. It’s insane!

And we wonder why this keeps happening? When you’ve been taught by teachers and government leaders that there is no God, no reason to be good for a better purpose, then why be good? Killing others will be your glory, not loving and serving others.

I would encourage you to consider who you’ve voted for in the last several elections. Have they brought a moral compass to our nation or have they deleted any moral compass we’ve ever had? Are they leading with true, exceptional principles, or are they found lacking those traits. Do our leaders unite people, or divide them? Do our leaders shift blame, and preach that ANYTHING is okay as long as it leads to the outcome they want?

My message may sound political. It may sound religious. It may even sound judgmental. No matter how you interpret it, this post is MY opinion and I own it! True leadership is important….no, it’s vital! YOU can make a difference. YOUR choices in the next election will matter. True leaders will engage in the process rather than try to politicize their agenda.

I invite you to weigh in whether you agree or disagree. Remember to communicate politely and with kindness.

Your Influence x 10!

INFLUENCE.

Highway Signpost Influence

That’s my word.  That’s the one word that defines all aspects of leadership.  How do you know if you “have it”?

Oh….you have it!  In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I explain how INFLUENCE is the very first trait we’re born with, and how we strengthen our influence throughout our lives.

As a matter of fact, in my book, I list 10 ways that you influence others and don’t even know it!

That is the next reason on my list of 30 reasons for reading SELF Centered Leadership.  You will learn the 10 ways you INFLUENCE!

The book makes a great gift for anyone 12 and up!  It is fraught with stories that are entertaining and informative.  So, if the reasons below aren’t enough to make you want to read my book, then be patient – there are 13 more coming!

Reason #30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

Reason #29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

Reason #28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

Reason #27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

Reason #26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

Reason #25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

Reason #24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership (although you may have gotten a hint from today’s post)

Reason #23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

Reason #22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

Reason #21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.  Didn’t know you were in a fishbowl?  Well….you are.

Reason #20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

Reason #19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

Reason #18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

Reason #17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

So what are you waiting for?  Go buy the book!