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The Sting of Friendship. Reason to Read #23

Scorpions as playthings?  You bet!  I grew up in the Sonoran Desert.  Scorpions, tarantulas and snakes were my playthings.

Scorpion | leadership | Friendship

In my upcoming book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, I write about an experience I had with my friend, Debbie, when I was 11 years old.   This experience has something to do with scorpions; and it’s an experience that still stings even today.

The book will be available in paperback and on Kindle very soon.  I’ll keep you posted.

There are many, many reasons to read the book, and I’ve provided reason 23 today – the ways that friendship can sting.  If you haven’t read the other reasons in my countdown, you can click on any of the following links.

In the meantime, enjoy a song from the SCORPIONS.  I think my book will rock you like a hurricane!

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

Reason #27: How to Apply The Three P’s of Empowerment

Reason #26: How to overcome regrets

Reason #25: How to be a leadership HERO

Reason #24: Discover my one-word definition of leadership

 

 

Empowerment With Three P’s

In October 2013, Forbes Magazine published The World’s Most Powerful People.  The list of 72 were mostly government leaders, entrepreneurs, and wealthy CEO’s.

I wasn’t on that list, and I suspect you weren’t either.  Is being powerful really that cool?  It might be if you didn’t have to worry about someone coming along who is even more powerful and taking your power from you.

Even greater than POWER is EMPOWERMENT.  I discuss Empowerment at length in my upcoming book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #27 to read my book is that I provide you THE THREE P’s OF EMPOWERMENT.

You can be Empowered no matter what challenges you face; and no matter what your circumstance.  The way to empower yourself is to apply THE THREE P’s.

Read my book to find out what they are!

In case you missed the other reasons to read my upcoming book, I have the links here for you…

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

Tough decision? There’s An APP for That!

Life.  It’s a daily process of decision making.

  1. Should I wear blue or green?
  2. Should I drive to work or ride my bike?
  3. Should I quit my job and go live on the beach in Hawaii?  Or, maybe Tahiti?

Hawaii

Rory Vaden may call you a Should-Head for asking those questions.   He is the author of one of my favorite books, Take the Stairs.

Making decisions can be tough.  Sometimes, it’s not a matter of good versus bad.  Sometimes, making a decision is a matter of good, better and best.

I address the task of good, better and best decision making in my upcoming book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  I share an APP to help you determine which option is the best one when faced with a decision.

Having access to my APP is reason #28 for reading my book.  It will be available soon.

I realize that you may have another daily decision to make:

  • Should I read Jackie’s book or not?

Since you won’t have the APP to help you with your decision until you get the book, I have begun a countdown of reasons WHY you should read SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

(Be sure to use the links to read previous posts)

And today’s reason, #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

More reasons to come.  But for now, have a successful decision-making day!  See you in Hawaii?

Reason 29 – Spotting the Imitation

Imitation

I once sold a fake cake to a grocery store customer.  I didn’t know it was fake at the time.

I didn’t realize that the bakery personnel routinely decorated pieces of Styrofoam to look like real cake.

In my upcoming book, I address some aspects of life that have become imitators of happiness.  You may have been fooled once, but after reading my book, you’ll be on the lookout for forgeries everywhere!

By reading my book you’ll learn how to:

SPOT the IMITATION

That is reason #29 for reading SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  That’s the title of my book.

If you missed Reason #30 for reading my book, it is that:

You will learn how to prepare for, AND survive, an ODYSSEY.



I hope these two reasons make you want to read my book.  But if not, there are 28 more reasons coming in my blog.

Stay tuned……

The TOP 30 Reasons to Read My Book

My book is done!  Woot, woot!  Of course, editing now takes place, and there will certainly be some corrections.  But by and large, it is done.  The blood, the sweat, and the tears are over – at least with the creative portion of this particular project.

The title of my book is…

S.E.L.F. Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional

While the editing and the book cover are in process, I wanted to let you know WHY you should read my book when it’s ready.

I’ve decided that, although there are as many reasons to read this book as there are peeps in the world, I’m going to provide you with just 30 reasons.  I’m going to do this by way of a count down.

Are you ready?

Reason #30 for reading S.E.L.F. Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional

You will learn how to prepare for, and how to survive, an ODYSSEY. 

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Although this book is not about wilderness survival, desert survival, or even surviving a long ocean voyage, it is about learning to keep keeping on when it becomes very hard to do so.

In my book, I share with you how an odyssey is required if your desire is to become exceptional.   Great leaders are great leaders because they have overcome great hardships.

Through personal stories, and stories of others, my book, S.E.L.F. Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, will teach you how to prepare for hardships, and how to get through them in order to become exceptional.

“The only way out is through” ~ Carol (last name withheld)

Tune in as the count down continues.  You’ll want to know all 30 reasons for reading my book.

There’s a first time for everything!

Hello friends, and welcome to the new home of my blog.  The format wherein my original blog posts were housed is now becoming obsolete.  For that reason, I’ve had to transfer my blog to this new Word Press site.  This is my maiden post!

I haven’t posted much on my blog lately because I’ve been working on my book.  Thankfully, I’m getting closer to being ready for edits.

Since there is a first time for everything (and because I wanted to try out my new Word Press format), I’m going to give you a small glimpse into one of the chapters of my book….

From, “S.E.L.F. Leadership”, chapter 1…..

The one word I believe defines leadership greater than any other, is INFLUENCE. In fact, my favorite definition of leadership comes from the founder of Toastmasters International, Ralph Smedley.  Almost 100 years ago Dr. Smedley created a non-profit organization with the intent of helping people to enhance their communication and leadership skills.

Dr. Smedley defined leadership as, “……the capacity to influence others to achieve worthwhile results”. There’s that word again. INFLUENCE.

How do people like you and me gain the capacity to influence others to achieve results that are worthwhile? How can your influence become a force or power to effect change in others?

This book will attempt to answer those questions. However, I firmly believe that WE ARE ALL leaders. Each one of us influences another. This influence can be good or bad. Nevertheless, influence is the first quality we are born with, and we develop influence throughout our lives.

This book will focus on EXCEPTIONAL LEADERSHIP. Exceptional leadership trumps simple influence.

Synonyms for EXCEPTIONAL include:

  • Extraordinary
  • Noteworthy
  • Rare
  • Remarkable
  • Singular
  • Uncommon
  • Unique

The questions again were:

How do people like you and me gain the capacity to influence others to achieve results that are worthwhile?

How can your influence become a force or power to effect change in others?

I believe the answers come through S.E.L.F. reflection. I believe influence happens when you become S.E.L.F.ish. I believe that leadership is truly an odyssey to S.E.L.F. Once S.E.L.F. is attained, your influence can be felt by countless individuals, and that you can, and will be, a force and power to effect change. THAT is leadership.

There it is….your sneak peak to my first book.  It will be helpful for you to know that S.E.L.F. is an acronym for four attributes that I believe exceptional leaders must posses: SACRIFICE – EMPOWERMENT – LOVE – FRIENDSHIP.

There is a first time for everything, and I’m excited for the opportunity to share my message with the world!