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STYX-To-It-Ness is Empowering! Reason #2

SELF Centered Leadership is my new book.  I’ve been  blogging about the 30 Reasons to Read it.  Today’s post is reason #2 – achieving STYX-to-it-ness.

Arny and Todd Sucherman

Todd Sucherman, drummer for the legendary band, STYX shares a story in my book that illustrates the principle of empowerment.   Whether you’re a Renegade, a Blue Collar Man or Miss America, Todd’s story discredits the idea that Nothing Goes as Planned. 

You might say that The Grand Illusion is that we think some Crystal Ball will give us success.  Not so.  Superstars always prepare, and they Don’t Let It End.   Todd’s preparedness has kept him Rockin’ the Paradise with STYX for many years.

In my book, you’ll learn that Love Is the Ritual of being prepared, and it’s empowering!  You’re just Fooling Yourself  if you think you can Sing For the Day without preparing yesterday.  It makes no difference if you’re a Lady or a Man in the Wilderness, you can create your Best of Times when you prepare!

Don’t be A Criminal Mind or Snowblind!   Come Sail Away on an odyssey to SELF by reading SELF Centered Leadership.  Todd Sucherman’s story will help you be the Queen of Spades in your own Castle Walls.  It’s time to Light Up  in your leadership, and get Your Boat on the River of STYX-to-it-ness!

Please read my book! Here’s the other 29 reasons to do so………..

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

#4 – Know the SECRET to get out of bed on those tough day.

#3 – Witness the Power of YES!

Knock, Knock. You Gonna Get That? Reason #3

We’ve all heard it.  That knock on the door.   Our first thought is, “Who could that be?”

Opportunity Knock | Power of Yes

Do you ignore the knock?  Pretend you’re not home?

Or, do you open the door?  Is it a little crack to first determine if it’s safe to open further?  Or do you open to the visitor with wild abandon?

Opportunity knocks.  You may shrink at the unknown and stay secure in your current state, or you can empower your future by saying yes to new experiences.

Through personal stories shared in my book, SELF Centered Leadership, you’ll  see that my character was shaped by saying yes and answering the door.  You can grow by simply engaging in opportunity.

This is reason #3 in my 30 Reason to Read countdown.  It’s almost done!  Have you read my book yet?

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

#4 – Know the SECRET to get out of bed on those tough day.

The Secret to Getting Out of Bed – Reason #4

There have been times in my life when getting out of bed meant facing another day of worry, sadness, loneliness, pain, confusion and/or despair.  It was almost impossible to find a reason to get up.

Get out of bed | Hard days

If you’ve ever felt this way, or if you know someone who struggles with these self-defeating emotions, I know the secret!  I really do!

I share the secret to getting out of bed, even on the hardest days of your life, in my new book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

The reviews from readers of my book are making their way onto Amazon, and it is wonderful to know that my message is changing lives.

One reader said…

“I enjoyed the book. It is a quick read, but one that I will go back to again, especially some parts that were especially meaningful to me. Like Ms Bailey says leadership begins on the inside. If you are a leader, want to be one, are being thrust into being one, start at the right place – with yourself. This book will give you a great start.”

Another reviewer wrote…

“Spot on! This book provides an easy, logical and true path to being a leader and guiding others along their way. It takes courage to provide personal examples and shows the authenticity of the writer.”

I hope you’ll find value in my message.  If you can’t quite get out of bed just yet, then read the book IN BED.  Once you know the secret, you’ll be able to get out of bed again and again, even in the midst of your biggest challenges!  That’s reason FOUR in my 30 Reasons To Read Countdown…..

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

Reason Five Reveals Five Imitators of Happiness

We are surrounded by imitations, fakes and counterfeits.  Some of them look so much like the original that it’s difficult to perceive the hoax.

Food, video games, fabric, jewelry, money, even communication can be counterfeit.  These can all be imitation versions of the real thing.

Fake money

These imitations are the cause of unhappiness because we can believe they are true, only to find that not only are they false, but possibly dangerous.

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I identify Five Imitators of Happiness that we should be wary of.  This is likely an unexpected list, because you are probably being fooled by the items on my list.

Knowing where the counterfeits are helps us to begin to live a more genuine life.  Reading my book will help you do that.

Are there any guesses as to what the Five Imitators of Happiness are?

I’m down to the last five reasons to read my book.  I began with a countdown of 30.  Have you been keeping up?

If not, here are the REAL, GENUINE reasons YOU should read SELF Centered Leadership……

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

Service is the Best Medicine – Reason #6

The Unlimited Love Institute researched the question: “Does the unselfish love of others contribute to the happiness, health and resilience of those who give it?”

They discovered the answer is YES!  They report:

“….Contributing to the lives of others allows those who love their neighbor to flourish by living an active life free from preoccupation with the self…self destructive emotions, lack of purpose, loneliness or isolation”.

The Jewish philosopher Martin Buber noted, “…We can pretend that we are the center of the universe, and fail; …or we can relate to others in love and respect.”

In my book, I testify using personal experience how SERVICE and LOVE kept me alive!  Service was a medicine that healed.

Martin Luther King Jr. noted, “Everybody can be great….because anybody can serve.  You don’t have to have a college degree to serve.  You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.  You only need a heart full of grace.  A soul generated by love.”

If you appreciate the sentiments of the Unlimited Love Institute, Martin Buber and Martin Luther King, Jr., then you will LOVE chapter four in my book, SELF Centered Leadership.

It is now for sale on Amazon and CreateSpaceIf you want to serve others, please purchase my book at www.smile.amazon.com and choose the charity Oral Cancer Cause, and Amazon will donate 5% of your purchase to this worthy foundation that helps cancer patients during treatment.

You will see that service truly is the best medicine!

Pain, Pain Go Away….Reason #7

I have had fibromyalgia for almost 30 years.  It is a condition that causes constant pain.  There is no known cure.

Pain | Empowerment

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I write about the empowering choice I made that alleviated my pain within three days.

I was ready to have surgery on a shoulder that was becoming more debilitating every day – then surprisingly the pain is gone.

You can read about the choice and change I made in chapter three of SELF Centered Leadership.  I hope you’ll choose to read it, and that you’ll make the same choice I made.  Life without pain is good!

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

 

Sacrifice or Vice? Reason #8 to Read SELF Centered Leadership

Actions, Possessions and Possibilities

Sacrifice or Vice

When making decisions, it helps to have my Sacrifice or Vice chart – found in my book, SELF Centered Leadership.

What actions do you take on a daily basis?  How should those tasks be prioritized?

What possessions do you want to obtain?  Is this the right time?

What possibilities lay before you?  Is going back to school now realistic?

These questions require consideration and thought to decide if they are worthy of sacrifice to obtain, or if they are a vice that should be avoided.

I provide an APP to help you weigh your choices.  That is the eighth reason for reading SELF Centered Leadership.

So, is this the right time to buy my book?  Get my book to find out…..

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

Stop Eating Styrofoam! Reason #9 for Reading SELF Centered Leadership

Chances are, you had a bowl full of Styrofoam flakes for breakfast, a Styrofoam sandwich for lunch, and a medium rare Styrofoam steak for dinner.  Yummm, that sounds so good!   NOT!

Styrofoam | Empowerment

Now that I have your attention, I will admit that I’m being a little ridiculous with the Styrofoam scenario.  However, you are likely eating food that has about as much nutrition in it as Styrofoam does.

90% of our corn has been genetically modified by organisms that have NEVER been in the human food chain before – nor should be.  In other words, 90% of the corn you eat is fake!  It is IMITATION, and that’s just the beginning.

Sweet corn, genetic engineering

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I identify ways that you are undermining your power by what you eat.  It will surprise you to learn just how many foods are genetically modified.  And you will be horrified to learn how your diet may be undermining your health and well-being.

I provide solutions in my book.  Please buy it, and read it.  And STOP eating STRYOFOAM!

You can buy my book on Amazon or the CreateSpace Store.  If you purchase on Amazon, please buy it at www.smile.amazon.com.  5% of your purchase will be donated to the Oral Cancer Cause Foundation.

30 Reasons to Read SELF Centered Leadership….

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com

Provide a Healthy Smile – Reason #10 to Read My Book!

Smile | Empowerment | Oral CancerIn my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I identify five imitators of happiness.  One of those imitators is Tobacco.  Tobacco use is the number one risk factor for oral cancer. The fastest growing segment of oral cancer patients are 25-50 years old.

Tobacco is a substance that DOES NOT EMPOWER you by using it.  In fact, using it may make you POWERLESS to an ugly, debilitating and deadly cancer.

You can learn about the other four imitators of happiness by reading my book.  You can also help the Oral Cancer Cause Foundation with their mission –  to improve the quality of life for oral cancer patients through financial support so that they may face the world with peace and dignity during and after medical treatment.

How does buying my book help OCC?   When you purchase my book (or anything else) at www.smile.amazon.com and choose ORAL CANCER CAUSE when prompted, Amazon will donate 5% of your purchase to OCC.

That’s EMPOWERMENT!  It’s also reason 10 of 30 to read SELF Centered Leadership.  Buy it and read it today!

Oh…..remember to smile!

30 Reasons to Read….

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

“How Can I Help?” – Reason #11 to Read SELF Centered Leadership

How many times have you said to someone, “Let me know if I can help….”?

If you’re like most people (me included), you have good intentions to help another, but there are times when you really don’t know what you can do.

How many times has someone actually responded with a way you can help?  It’s very common for the one on the intended receiving end to also not know how you can help.  Quite a dilemma indeed.

There is a section in my book called “The Rest of the Story”.  In this part of SELF Centered Leadership, I offer many practical ways you can help someone in need.  This is reason #11 to read my book.  You can actually make good on your good intentions!

Go ahead, ask me if there is anything you can do for me………

Well, thank you for asking!  Yes!  I would be ever so grateful if you were to purchase a few copies of my book and gift one to yourself and the rest to others.  You would be doing a great kindness to me, setting yourself on a worthwhile course, AND providing a valuable gift to someone else.

Last of all – please remember to write a review on AMAZON after you’ve made your purchase.

Tomorrow, I will post reason #10!  I am almost done with my 30 Reasons to Read Countdown!  I hope you have found this countdown helpful, and that you find my book a worthwhile read.  If you’re still not convinced to buy it, there are 10 more reasons coming!  Stay tuned……