Leadership on the Field – Go Hawks!

Sports metaphors are used to teach leadership more than perhaps any other method.  I think the reason for that is obvious – team situations provide grounds for learning to follow, and learning to lead.

My NFL team, the Seattle Seahawks is going to the SUPER BOWL for the second year in a row!  That gives me perfectly good reason to use a sports metaphor about leadership.

Pete Carroll | Seahawks coach

Pete Carroll – I call him re-Pete Carroll – is the head coach for the Hawks.  The quarterback is Russell Wilson.  Two great men who have been on a leadership odyssey, and whom have proven to be outstanding in their field.  The football field.  Actually, I suppose they weren’t standing.  They were running in their field.  They couldn’t win if they were just standing…..

Coach Carroll has coached many players on many teams.  His odyssey finally brought him to Seattle, and it has been his leadership that has influenced a winning team.

In a recent article by Pat Kirwan titled, Super Bowl 49: How Pete Carroll Came to Mold Champion Seahawks, the author describes how Pete Carroll possess the SELF leadership traits that make exceptional leaders.  Sacrifice, Empowerment, Love and Friendship.

Sacrifice – The article states, His players find it difficult to believe his age (63) because of his energy level. Whether it’s running around at practice, or looking for a player to go one on one with on the basketball court, he never seems to drag.

“I never saw him yawn around the office late at night working on a game plan,” one of his coaches said the other day.

It takes sacrifice of sleep, time and energy to coach a football team of grown men.  The expectations are tremendous.  Coach Carroll obviously understands the sacrifice, and gladly accepts it all for the sake of influencing the team.

Empowerment – His ability to understand his players, and to teach them how to not only work hard, but refocus when necessary is described in the article this way –  The competitive spirit of Seahawks practices has been well-chronicled, but what is unique about his upbeat workouts — going back to his USC days — are his attempts to distract players (open-to-the-public workouts, blaring music) to teach focus. There’s even a basketball hoop in the team’s big meeting room. Players are regularly trying to make a shot. On the spur of the moment he stops meetings, calling for a shooting contest.

The last time I was there, the kickers beat the defensive line and the players erupted with cheers and boos, only to settle down seconds later and refocus.

Love – Service is the key to leadership, and even in a testosterone-high environment, exceptional leaders find time to serve unrelated to the job.  Pete Carroll is an example of charitable love.  The article states….

1. When he coached the Patriots, my cousin — a big Patriots fan — was diagnosed with cancer. Carroll called every week and convinced my cousin he’d get better, keeping his hopes alive. My cousin got better and never forgot Carroll’s efforts.

2. When Carroll was looking for a strength and conditioning coach at USC, he got a call from Chris Carlisle. Carlisle disclosed he had cancer, to which Carroll responded: “Then get out here and get to work so you get better.”

3. One night when we were driving home from work and saw a car with a flat tire on the side of the road. A mother and her two boys were standing outside the car, looking upset. Upon noticing the boys were wearing Steelers shirts, Carroll said to pull over. When he got out of the car, he said we’d fix the flat if the boys traded their Steelers gear for Jets shirts.

Friendship – Pete Carroll is concerned about his friends – even those who work for him  – Loyalty to staff members shows up in his efforts to get them better jobs than they already have. I asked him about losing a few assistants because of the Seahawks’ success, and he said he was trying to help two more assistants get coordinator jobs.

Pete Carroll is an exceptional leader.  He has mastered well the SELF-ish leaderSacrifice, Empowerment, Love and Friendship.  I believe we’ll see examples of all four traits on the field this Sunday at the Super Bowl.

Go Hawks!

Go Sea Hawks | Superbowl

Conversations that Heal has allowed me to guest post

Hello leaders!

My friend, Susan Jacobi has allowed me a guest post spot on her blog – Conversations that Heal.

Please read my post on her blog.  And remember, in the world of blogging, a comment on a post is like GOLD!  Please consider commenting and sharing with your friends!

Happy BLUE FRIDAY!  GO HAWKS!

Your Odyssey Has Begun – Whose Eyes Will You Look Into?

Advice.  We’re surrounded by it.  With the advent of the internet there are friends, followers, gurus and goofballs who will tell you they have the solution to your every problem.

Perhaps you consider me a friend.  You may follow this blog, and I may follow yours.  There are some who call me a guru, and more who know me as a goofball.

I don’t have a solution to your every problem, but I have gained wisdom through experience that I’m happy to share.  In fact, many years ago I was asked by a counselor,

“Jackie, if you could speak to Heavenly Father right now, what would you ask him?”

My response then is the same response I’d have today:

“What do you want me to do now?”

The first time I was asked this question was at the finish line of emotional hell overcoming childhood abuse.  With a more complete perspective, I could see how my circumstances, experiences, and challenges of the past had shaped me into the person I was then.  I had always known that if I made it through that healing process I would have more strength than I could have ever imagined.

I was strong.  I had survived.  I was glad I had chosen to keep moving forward.  That odyssey was complete.

I was at the beginning of another Odyssey.  Where would I go, and what would I do?  How can I influence the lives of others?  These were the questions I would ask God, “What do you want me to do now?”

That wasn’t the last time I began an odyssey in life.  It wasn’t the last time when I’ve been able to look back and gain perspective.

There was the time when I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia 30 years ago.  That was the start of an odyssey.

There was the time I decided to start my business, Emerald City Consulting.  That was an odyssey.

There was the time I said yes to District 2 leadership in Toastmasters International.  That was an odyssey.

There was the time I wrote my book, SELF Centered Leadership.  That is the beginning of your odyssey.

Each time I’ve disembarked from one odyssey, I’ve embarked on another.  That’s the way life should be!

Please take a moment to watch this video featuring a song from John Denver titled “Come and Let Me Look In Your Eyes”

I invite you to embark on an odyssey to exceptional leadership by looking through my eyes.  I identify four traits that have helped me gain perspective from my challenges and experiences in my book, SELF Centered Leadership.  I invite you to read it.

It will help you answer the question,

“What do you want me to do now?”

 

Never Fail at This One Thing – Reason 1

If you’re like me, you want to be successful in all you do.  And, like me, you’ve probably also learned that success does not come without failure.

Thomas Edison

Thomas Edison was told by his teacher, “You’re too stupid to learn anything.”

Edison then went on to hold more than 1000 patents and invented life-changing devices like the phonograph, electric lamp, and movie camera.

Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first television anchor job.  Forbes now estimates her worth to be 2.9 billion dollars, and she’s the undisputed queen of television talk shows.

Walt Disney

Walt Disney was told by a newspaper editor that he “…lacked imagination and had no good ideas”.  However, my childhood, and those of millions of children in the last 50 years, have been enhanced by the talents and ideas of Mr. Disney.

These are examples of failure (or at least, perceived failure at the time) that is sometimes experienced before success comes to fruition.

We may fail, or be only partly successful at the goals we attempt to reach, or in the accomplishments we set out to achieve.  Most of us will not invent a life-changing device, or become the king or queen of talk-show television.

But the truth is – we can be 100% successful in ONE THING!  What is that fail-proof thing?  You’ll have to read my book to find out!

SELF Centered Leadership is an easy, fun read.  My message is inspiring because it resonates truth.  I write of four traits you should master if you want to be exceptional.

My book is available on AMAZON and on my EMERALD CITY CONSULTING website.

In this post I have revealed the number one reason to read my book – never fail at this one thing again!

There are at least 29 other reasons to read SELF Centered Leadership listed below.  It’s easy to click on the links and learn all 30 reasons….

So why haven’t you purchased it yet?

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

#4 – Know the SECRET to get out of bed on those tough day.

#3 – Witness the Power of YES!

#2 – Achieving STYX-to-it-ness!

STYX-To-It-Ness is Empowering! Reason #2

SELF Centered Leadership is my new book.  I’ve been  blogging about the 30 Reasons to Read it.  Today’s post is reason #2 – achieving STYX-to-it-ness.

Arny and Todd Sucherman

Todd Sucherman, drummer for the legendary band, STYX shares a story in my book that illustrates the principle of empowerment.   Whether you’re a Renegade, a Blue Collar Man or Miss America, Todd’s story discredits the idea that Nothing Goes as Planned. 

You might say that The Grand Illusion is that we think some Crystal Ball will give us success.  Not so.  Superstars always prepare, and they Don’t Let It End.   Todd’s preparedness has kept him Rockin’ the Paradise with STYX for many years.

In my book, you’ll learn that Love Is the Ritual of being prepared, and it’s empowering!  You’re just Fooling Yourself  if you think you can Sing For the Day without preparing yesterday.  It makes no difference if you’re a Lady or a Man in the Wilderness, you can create your Best of Times when you prepare!

Don’t be A Criminal Mind or Snowblind!   Come Sail Away on an odyssey to SELF by reading SELF Centered Leadership.  Todd Sucherman’s story will help you be the Queen of Spades in your own Castle Walls.  It’s time to Light Up  in your leadership, and get Your Boat on the River of STYX-to-it-ness!

Please read my book! Here’s the other 29 reasons to do so………..

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

#4 – Know the SECRET to get out of bed on those tough day.

#3 – Witness the Power of YES!

Knock, Knock. You Gonna Get That? Reason #3

We’ve all heard it.  That knock on the door.   Our first thought is, “Who could that be?”

Opportunity Knock | Power of Yes

Do you ignore the knock?  Pretend you’re not home?

Or, do you open the door?  Is it a little crack to first determine if it’s safe to open further?  Or do you open to the visitor with wild abandon?

Opportunity knocks.  You may shrink at the unknown and stay secure in your current state, or you can empower your future by saying yes to new experiences.

Through personal stories shared in my book, SELF Centered Leadership, you’ll  see that my character was shaped by saying yes and answering the door.  You can grow by simply engaging in opportunity.

This is reason #3 in my 30 Reason to Read countdown.  It’s almost done!  Have you read my book yet?

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

#4 – Know the SECRET to get out of bed on those tough day.

The Secret to Getting Out of Bed – Reason #4

There have been times in my life when getting out of bed meant facing another day of worry, sadness, loneliness, pain, confusion and/or despair.  It was almost impossible to find a reason to get up.

Get out of bed | Hard days

If you’ve ever felt this way, or if you know someone who struggles with these self-defeating emotions, I know the secret!  I really do!

I share the secret to getting out of bed, even on the hardest days of your life, in my new book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

The reviews from readers of my book are making their way onto Amazon, and it is wonderful to know that my message is changing lives.

One reader said…

“I enjoyed the book. It is a quick read, but one that I will go back to again, especially some parts that were especially meaningful to me. Like Ms Bailey says leadership begins on the inside. If you are a leader, want to be one, are being thrust into being one, start at the right place – with yourself. This book will give you a great start.”

Another reviewer wrote…

“Spot on! This book provides an easy, logical and true path to being a leader and guiding others along their way. It takes courage to provide personal examples and shows the authenticity of the writer.”

I hope you’ll find value in my message.  If you can’t quite get out of bed just yet, then read the book IN BED.  Once you know the secret, you’ll be able to get out of bed again and again, even in the midst of your biggest challenges!  That’s reason FOUR in my 30 Reasons To Read Countdown…..

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

#5 – Learn the Five Imitators of Happiness

Reason Five Reveals Five Imitators of Happiness

We are surrounded by imitations, fakes and counterfeits.  Some of them look so much like the original that it’s difficult to perceive the hoax.

Food, video games, fabric, jewelry, money, even communication can be counterfeit.  These can all be imitation versions of the real thing.

Fake money

These imitations are the cause of unhappiness because we can believe they are true, only to find that not only are they false, but possibly dangerous.

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I identify Five Imitators of Happiness that we should be wary of.  This is likely an unexpected list, because you are probably being fooled by the items on my list.

Knowing where the counterfeits are helps us to begin to live a more genuine life.  Reading my book will help you do that.

Are there any guesses as to what the Five Imitators of Happiness are?

I’m down to the last five reasons to read my book.  I began with a countdown of 30.  Have you been keeping up?

If not, here are the REAL, GENUINE reasons YOU should read SELF Centered Leadership……

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making

#7 – Pain, Pain, Go Away!

#6 – Service is the best medicine.

Service is the Best Medicine – Reason #6

The Unlimited Love Institute researched the question: “Does the unselfish love of others contribute to the happiness, health and resilience of those who give it?”

They discovered the answer is YES!  They report:

“….Contributing to the lives of others allows those who love their neighbor to flourish by living an active life free from preoccupation with the self…self destructive emotions, lack of purpose, loneliness or isolation”.

The Jewish philosopher Martin Buber noted, “…We can pretend that we are the center of the universe, and fail; …or we can relate to others in love and respect.”

In my book, I testify using personal experience how SERVICE and LOVE kept me alive!  Service was a medicine that healed.

Martin Luther King Jr. noted, “Everybody can be great….because anybody can serve.  You don’t have to have a college degree to serve.  You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.  You only need a heart full of grace.  A soul generated by love.”

If you appreciate the sentiments of the Unlimited Love Institute, Martin Buber and Martin Luther King, Jr., then you will LOVE chapter four in my book, SELF Centered Leadership.

It is now for sale on Amazon and CreateSpaceIf you want to serve others, please purchase my book at www.smile.amazon.com and choose the charity Oral Cancer Cause, and Amazon will donate 5% of your purchase to this worthy foundation that helps cancer patients during treatment.

You will see that service truly is the best medicine!

Pain, Pain Go Away….Reason #7

I have had fibromyalgia for almost 30 years.  It is a condition that causes constant pain.  There is no known cure.

Pain | Empowerment

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership, I write about the empowering choice I made that alleviated my pain within three days.

I was ready to have surgery on a shoulder that was becoming more debilitating every day – then surprisingly the pain is gone.

You can read about the choice and change I made in chapter three of SELF Centered Leadership.  I hope you’ll choose to read it, and that you’ll make the same choice I made.  Life without pain is good!

#30 – You’ll learn to prepare for and survive an ODYSSEY!

#29 – You’ll learn how to spot IMITATIONS everywhere!

#28 – I’ll show you an APP to help you make tough decisions

#27 – I’ll introduce the Three P’s of Empowerment and how to apply them in your life

#26 – Wanna overcome regret?  I show you how!

#25 – I will illustrate how YOU can be heroic in your leadership!

#24 – You’ll learn my one-word definition for leadership

#23 – Friendship can sting.  I’ll tell you what I mean when I introduce you to Lexi and Debbie.

#22 – You’ll learn how to be EXCEPTIONAL!

#21 – You will know how to rise to the top of your fishbowl.

#20 – You will learn how to EMPOWER your life, your love, and your actions!

#19 – Love can be hazardous.  I teach you how to LOVE in a SAFE way.

#18 – My book makes a great stocking stuffer for anyone 12 and up!

#17 – You’ll be surprised to learn the 10 ways you influence others constantly!

#16 – You’ll learn to have charitable, brotherly love year round

#15 – You’ll learn the fishy art of caring for goldfish, and how to navigate your own fishbowl.

#14 – Learn to prepare for winter conditions

#13 – Learn how to communicate with credibility

#12Learn to lead with Intention

#11Learn ways to stop asking, and start helping

#10 – Help someone with oral cancer smile again by purchasing my book on www.smile.amazon.com  choose Oral Cancer Cause

#9 – Stop eating Styrofoam!

#8 – You’ll have access to the SACRIFICE or VICE chart for decision making