Overcoming Regrets: Reason #26 for Reading SELF Centered Leadership

On this day before Thanksgiving here in America, I thought it appropriate to talk about a nemesis of gratitude.  Regret.

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We all have regrets.  Although regret tends to be a negative-energy emotion, it can inspire change.

In my book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, I tell you about my greatest regret.

The story has to do with friends and bullies; protection and victimization; courage and fear.  Perhaps it will inspire you.

Have you missed reasons 27 through 30 in my countdown?

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

Reason #27: How to Apply The Three P’s of Empowerment

Have a Happy Thanksgiving!  Be grateful for your challenges – they form your character and inspire growth!

Ferguson and Lessons of Empowerment

I interrupt the count down to my upcoming book to provide commentary about the happenings in a Missouri town called Ferguson.

Last summer, Michael Brown was shot several times by police officer, Darren Wilson.  Yesterday, after months of investigation by a Grand Jury, the decision was: no indictment of Officer Wilson.  In other words,  a group of Ferguson citizens decided that Darren Wilson did not commit a crime during the encounter with Michael Brown last summer.

At the announcement of this decision, some citizens of Ferguson erupted in anger.  This anger was evident in acts of violence, looting, and destroying businesses and the livelihood of many Ferguson residents.

Despite the very detailed list of evidence that was presented, there are many who believe the American justice system is broken and unfair.  That may be the case in general, but I don’t believe it is true in this case.

Officer Wilson is a man with white skin.  Michael Brown was a young man with black skin.  Somehow these facts compound the unfairness in the minds of people in Ferguson.

What if officer Wilson was black?  What if Michael Brown was white?  Would those facts change the  Grand Jury findings?  I’ll let you consider the answer.  The answer MATTERS.

The people of Ferguson who looted businesses, lit fires, and acted violently after the Grand Jury decision are asking the rest of us to accept that Michael Brown did no wrong last summer, and that their behavior is justified.  They are asking us to believe that Michael Brown had a different mindset than they themselves have.

I don’t believe it.  The acts of the protesters is proof to me that Michael Brown was very likely prone to act in the same manner.  The protesters see an injustice, and they act out in violence.  Michael Brown saw a white police officer meting out injustice, and he acted in violence.

I don’t believe that either case is an injustice.  Michael Brown was a criminal.  Officer Wilson was justified defending himself against clear and present danger.

Everything would be different if Michael Brown made a different choice on the day he died.  He shoplifted, he resisted arrest, he assaulted a police officer.  His final act was to resist arrest a second time.

Michael Brown had not acted in a way that would empower his life or his circumstance.  His choices determined his destiny.

The protestors have not acted in a way that will empower their community or the citizens of Ferguson.  Their choices have determined the destiny of many.

Everyone can be empowered no matter what challenges they face, and no matter what their circumstances.  Personal choice is either EMPOWERING, or leaves you POWERLESS.

What will YOUR choice be?

 

 

 

Empowerment With Three P’s

In October 2013, Forbes Magazine published The World’s Most Powerful People.  The list of 72 were mostly government leaders, entrepreneurs, and wealthy CEO’s.

I wasn’t on that list, and I suspect you weren’t either.  Is being powerful really that cool?  It might be if you didn’t have to worry about someone coming along who is even more powerful and taking your power from you.

Even greater than POWER is EMPOWERMENT.  I discuss Empowerment at length in my upcoming book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #27 to read my book is that I provide you THE THREE P’s OF EMPOWERMENT.

You can be Empowered no matter what challenges you face; and no matter what your circumstance.  The way to empower yourself is to apply THE THREE P’s.

Read my book to find out what they are!

In case you missed the other reasons to read my upcoming book, I have the links here for you…

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

Tough decision? There’s An APP for That!

Life.  It’s a daily process of decision making.

  1. Should I wear blue or green?
  2. Should I drive to work or ride my bike?
  3. Should I quit my job and go live on the beach in Hawaii?  Or, maybe Tahiti?

Hawaii

Rory Vaden may call you a Should-Head for asking those questions.   He is the author of one of my favorite books, Take the Stairs.

Making decisions can be tough.  Sometimes, it’s not a matter of good versus bad.  Sometimes, making a decision is a matter of good, better and best.

I address the task of good, better and best decision making in my upcoming book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  I share an APP to help you determine which option is the best one when faced with a decision.

Having access to my APP is reason #28 for reading my book.  It will be available soon.

I realize that you may have another daily decision to make:

  • Should I read Jackie’s book or not?

Since you won’t have the APP to help you with your decision until you get the book, I have begun a countdown of reasons WHY you should read SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

(Be sure to use the links to read previous posts)

And today’s reason, #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

More reasons to come.  But for now, have a successful decision-making day!  See you in Hawaii?

Reason 29 – Spotting the Imitation

Imitation

I once sold a fake cake to a grocery store customer.  I didn’t know it was fake at the time.

I didn’t realize that the bakery personnel routinely decorated pieces of Styrofoam to look like real cake.

In my upcoming book, I address some aspects of life that have become imitators of happiness.  You may have been fooled once, but after reading my book, you’ll be on the lookout for forgeries everywhere!

By reading my book you’ll learn how to:

SPOT the IMITATION

That is reason #29 for reading SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  That’s the title of my book.

If you missed Reason #30 for reading my book, it is that:

You will learn how to prepare for, AND survive, an ODYSSEY.



I hope these two reasons make you want to read my book.  But if not, there are 28 more reasons coming in my blog.

Stay tuned……

The TOP 30 Reasons to Read My Book

My book is done!  Woot, woot!  Of course, editing now takes place, and there will certainly be some corrections.  But by and large, it is done.  The blood, the sweat, and the tears are over – at least with the creative portion of this particular project.

The title of my book is…

S.E.L.F. Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional

While the editing and the book cover are in process, I wanted to let you know WHY you should read my book when it’s ready.

I’ve decided that, although there are as many reasons to read this book as there are peeps in the world, I’m going to provide you with just 30 reasons.  I’m going to do this by way of a count down.

Are you ready?

Reason #30 for reading S.E.L.F. Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional

You will learn how to prepare for, and how to survive, an ODYSSEY. 

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Although this book is not about wilderness survival, desert survival, or even surviving a long ocean voyage, it is about learning to keep keeping on when it becomes very hard to do so.

In my book, I share with you how an odyssey is required if your desire is to become exceptional.   Great leaders are great leaders because they have overcome great hardships.

Through personal stories, and stories of others, my book, S.E.L.F. Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, will teach you how to prepare for hardships, and how to get through them in order to become exceptional.

“The only way out is through” ~ Carol (last name withheld)

Tune in as the count down continues.  You’ll want to know all 30 reasons for reading my book.