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Gentlemen, Where Are You?

I recently heard the following verbally spoken in public:

“A nasty guy”

“Lies like a dog over and over again”

“Failed. He’s so awkward and goofy”

“Looks like a little boy. A perfect puppet”

“Lazy. All talk and no action”

“He’s a loser”

You might imagine these words spoken by children on a playground, or by an immature, angry teenager who has deep, personal insecurities.

Sadly, all the above put downs, name calling, and insults were spoken by a well-known figure; a father of five; a man who is wealthy and wants for nothing; a man who should recognize his blessings; a man who should have the mindset of uplifting others because he has achieved so much.

All the words above were said by a candidate for the most powerful office in the world – The President of the United States. They were spoken by Donald Trump.

Donald Trump

Surprisingly, many people support Trump despite his negative rhetoric. However, Donald Trump is certainly not the only candidate who has resorted to such abrasive language.

At a recent political rally another presidential candidate, Marco Rubio, stated this about rival, Donald Trump: “he doesn’t sweat because his pores are clogged from the spray tan. Donald Trump isn’t gonna make America great, he’s gonna make America orange.”

As if personal attacks are not bad enough, other candidates say things by way of speculation knowing they may be reported as truth. For instance, another candidate, Ted Cruz suggested that Trump’s tax returns may show his connection to the mafia.

What in the world has happened to respectful competition? Where have all the gentlemen gone? Where can we find courtesy and civility  in conversation, and especially in positions of leadership?

There is a CRISIS of LEADERSHIP in our country and throughout our society!

In his last State of the Union address, President Obama commented, “The language, the spirit has become meaner than when I came in.”

I believe President Obama is right. I also believe he has a role to play in that meanness.

Barak Obama

Marco Rubio, a sitting Senator (part of the president’s team) remarked, “This president has been the single most divisive political figure this country has had over the last decade.”

Another congressman (team member) said, “There probably has not been a more racially-divisive, economic-divisive president in the White House since we had presidents who supported slavery.”

These are a few members of the president’s legislative team who see him as a non-collaborative leader. I recognize that the United States has become a two-party political system, but it seems to me this has come to mean that a line has been drawn in the sand, and whatever side you call yours is the only one with good ideas, and no possible work can happen together for the COMMON good of both sides.


True leaders are those who inspire their team to achieve noble results by bringing all ideas to the table and finding common ground to build on. President Obama appears to have done the opposite.

During his presidential campaign, Barack Obama was heard to say, “After we win this election, it’s our turn. Payback time. Everyone not with us is against us, and they better be ready because we don’t forget. The ones who helped us will be rewarded; the ones who opposed us will get what they deserve. There is going to be hell to pay.”

Does that kind of language build trust and rapport with people who have a different view than you do? Does that inspire people to WANT to work with you? Is that what an exceptional LEADER would say?
Before he took office in 2009, knowing half his “team” (Republicans) had a different view from his own, he said of them, “…it’s not surprising then that they get bitter, they cling to guns or religion or antipathy to people who aren’t like them or anti-immigrant sentiment or anti-trade sentiment as a way to explain their frustrations.”


LEADERSHIP is in decline in America! Kindness and courtesy have been forgotten. Respect and friendship are characteristics that no longer seem important. We are in big trouble, America!

Is it any wonder then, that candidates running for office are immature and unkind to each other? I’m not blaming the president; I’m blaming the ideas of “tolerance” and “equality” that have been buzz words for so many years.

We are expected to be tolerant of the viewpoints and diversity of others, yet it seems that those who preach tolerance the loudest are those who practice it the least.

I’m all for acceptance, love, and respect for ALL PEOPLE, and I sincerely apply these characteristics in all I do. However, I feel forced to tolerate ideas that bring people down instead of lift them up, and when I disagree with certain policies or ideas, I am labeled a hater.

I can’t possibly support ANY of the candidates for president because NONE of them have actually shown proof they can lead with civility and collaboration. Does that mean I hate them? Of course not.

Anyone who would accuse another of hate is most definitely more hateful than the one being accused.

The democratic side of the aisle has offered Hilary Clinton, who has most surely put herself above the law, and who has been dishonest; and Bernie Sanders, who has never governed anything, and who claims he will undo the US Constitution – the ONLY reason we are the exceptional nation we are.

These are the choices we have to make in this current election: individuals who are immature, disrespectful, dishonest, inexperienced, uncivil, and divisive. Great, huh?

A more courteous, kind, and loving society will only happen when we personally are more courteous, kind, and loving. It starts with you. It starts with me. It deepens its roots in our homes. It blossoms as we lead in an exceptional way. It comes to fruition when we see each other as children of God – valued and important, albeit different.


What are YOU going to do to decrease hurtful words, meanness and disrespect?

What are YOU going to do to increase your ability to be more courteous, kind and loving?

Our country needs more gentlemen and gentlewomen. We need YOU!

My book. SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional offers some ideas to become exceptional. I hope you’ll read it and tell me what you think.

Sally read my book and said:

This was a wonderful read that held my interest, from beginning to end. I loved how Jackie used her personal and family experiences, throughout her life, to make it *real* and motivational as well. From this book, I actually learned that I have been somewhat of a leader for most of my life. I now know how to do it more effectively and with “full engagement”. By saying “Yes”, I will open my life to more experience and value. I will now strive for exceptional leadership, using the tools that I have learned in this book. I am excited and inspired! Thank you, Jackie. I am very grateful.






“Keep believing, there’s no doubt in my mind, bro.”

Russell Wilson | Seattle SeahawksRussell Wilson, Quarterback for the next Super Bowl champs, the Seattle Seahawks, was mic’ed during the teams last game with the Green Bay Packers.

This video is a shortened version of the event.  In the last four minutes of the game, when it appeared that the Seahawks would lose the game, Russell led his team, against all odds, to victory.

He said the following, impactful statements in those last four minutes:

“We can still win this game, stay in it”

“Man, I want it! I hate losing!”

“Make a play! Make a play!”

“Keep believing, there’s no doubt in my mind, bro.”

“Live for the situation, live for it.”

“C’mon let’s go D! LET’S GO! LET’S GO!

After a winning touchdown that caused the Seattle Seahawks to win the NFC Championship game, Russell Wilson was heard to say…

“I told you, I told you. Thank you, Jesus”

“God made me for it, man. God made me for it.”

Russell Wilson 12 Man

Russell then grabbed a 12th Man flag and showed genuine appreciation for the fans that have so endlessly supported their Hawks!

1. Appreciation to God and Jesus

2. Appreciation to the fans

Wilson’s ability to lead, influence and inspire his team – and his fans –  is incredible.

I have learned a great deal from watching Russell Wilson.  What have you learned?

Go Sea Hawks | Superbowl


Are You Powerful or Empowered?

In October 2013, Forbes Magazine published “The World’s Most Powerful People”.  The list of 72 were mostly government leaders, entrepreneurs, and wealthy CEO’s.

This begs the question – what does it mean to be powerful?

Is power defined by strength or intelligence?  Is it gained by controlling people, possessions and wealth?  If so, this type of power seems problematic—-it can be taken away by someone even more powerful.

If Forbes published a list of “The World’s Most Empowered People”, the list would include anyone who:

  • Has studied hard and passed a test
  • Has faced a fear head on
  • Has overcome hardship

YOU would likely be on that list!

It would seem, then, that the power to control and dominate others is far less achievable than the power we have to influence our individual and personal triumphs.

The ability for self-Empowerment can never be taken from you.  It can only be diminished when your bad choices decrease your power to be what you want to be.

In my upcoming book:

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I discuss ways that you can EMPOWER your life, love and happiness!  That is reason #20 to read my book.

You can be Empowered no matter what challenges you face; and no matter what your circumstance.

So far, I’ve provided 10 reasons to read my book:

#30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

#29: How to spot the IMITATION

#28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

#27: How to Apply The Three P’s of Empowerment

#26: How to overcome regrets

#25: How to be a leadership HERO

#24: Learn the one-word definition of leadership

#23: Learn the sting of friendship

#22: How to be exceptional

#21: How to rise to the top of your fishbowl

Why are YOU going to read it?



Reason #24: Leadership Defined in ONE Word

A few years ago, I used social media to ask a question:

“If you had to define leadership in one word, what word would it be?”

Think about it….is it possible to define leadership in one word?  The answers I received were from all over the world.  I have combined some of them into a Wordle…. Leadership | Definition | Navigating Your Fishbowl Would you add your own one-word definition to the Wordle?  What would it be?

In my upcoming book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, I give you the ONE word I discovered that defines leadership in every circumstance and from every perspective.

Wanna know what that word is?  (hint – it’s NOT in the Wordle) The book will be out soon!  Learning the ONE word that defines leadership is reason #24 for reading my book.

If you’ve missed any of the other reasons, just follow these links…

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

Reason #27: How to Apply The Three P’s of Empowerment

Reason #26: How to overcome regrets

Reason #25: How to be a leadership HERO

Comment below with YOUR one-word definition of leadership.  If your answer is the word I release in my book, I’ll send you a gift.

(Disclaimer: If you have been one of the lucky ones to read the first chapter of my book, you do not qualify for the gift.)

Will the Real Hero Please Stand Up? – Reason #25

Action Hero City | Jackie Bailey

Man Saves Baby from Burning Building

Woman Pulls Stranger from Car Wreck

Young Boy Calls 911 and Saves His Fathers Life

These are feel-good headlines.  They often give us pause to reflect on what our own actions might be if we found ourselves in the same circumstance.

We don’t have to perform tremendous feats to be leadership heroes.  In leadership, we can be heroic by taking the action necessary to ensure the right outcome.

In my upcoming book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional, I will provide you with ways to become heroic in your leadership.  That is reason 25 in my 30-reason countdown.

In my book I share examples of three individuals who became heroic simply by using their influence with intentional action.  YOU can be a leadership hero, too!

If you’d like to know when the book comes out, please comment below to be included on my mailing list.  You’ll get special offers and discounts for being one of those “list” people!

If you’ve missed any of the previous blog posts listing the reasons to read my book, please click on the following links.

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions

Reason #27: How to Apply The Three P’s of Empowerment

Reason #26: How to overcome regrets

Thanks for tuning in.  Get out there and be heroic!


Empowerment With Three P’s

In October 2013, Forbes Magazine published The World’s Most Powerful People.  The list of 72 were mostly government leaders, entrepreneurs, and wealthy CEO’s.

I wasn’t on that list, and I suspect you weren’t either.  Is being powerful really that cool?  It might be if you didn’t have to worry about someone coming along who is even more powerful and taking your power from you.

Even greater than POWER is EMPOWERMENT.  I discuss Empowerment at length in my upcoming book, SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #27 to read my book is that I provide you THE THREE P’s OF EMPOWERMENT.

You can be Empowered no matter what challenges you face; and no matter what your circumstance.  The way to empower yourself is to apply THE THREE P’s.

Read my book to find out what they are!

In case you missed the other reasons to read my upcoming book, I have the links here for you…

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

Reason #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

Tough decision? There’s An APP for That!

Life.  It’s a daily process of decision making.

  1. Should I wear blue or green?
  2. Should I drive to work or ride my bike?
  3. Should I quit my job and go live on the beach in Hawaii?  Or, maybe Tahiti?


Rory Vaden may call you a Should-Head for asking those questions.   He is the author of one of my favorite books, Take the Stairs.

Making decisions can be tough.  Sometimes, it’s not a matter of good versus bad.  Sometimes, making a decision is a matter of good, better and best.

I address the task of good, better and best decision making in my upcoming book SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  I share an APP to help you determine which option is the best one when faced with a decision.

Having access to my APP is reason #28 for reading my book.  It will be available soon.

I realize that you may have another daily decision to make:

  • Should I read Jackie’s book or not?

Since you won’t have the APP to help you with your decision until you get the book, I have begun a countdown of reasons WHY you should read SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.

Reason #30: How to prepare for, and survive an ODYSSEY

Reason #29: How to spot the IMITATION

(Be sure to use the links to read previous posts)

And today’s reason, #28: How to use an APP to make tough decisions.

More reasons to come.  But for now, have a successful decision-making day!  See you in Hawaii?

Reason 29 – Spotting the Imitation


I once sold a fake cake to a grocery store customer.  I didn’t know it was fake at the time.

I didn’t realize that the bakery personnel routinely decorated pieces of Styrofoam to look like real cake.

In my upcoming book, I address some aspects of life that have become imitators of happiness.  You may have been fooled once, but after reading my book, you’ll be on the lookout for forgeries everywhere!

By reading my book you’ll learn how to:


That is reason #29 for reading SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional.  That’s the title of my book.

If you missed Reason #30 for reading my book, it is that:

You will learn how to prepare for, AND survive, an ODYSSEY.

I hope these two reasons make you want to read my book.  But if not, there are 28 more reasons coming in my blog.

Stay tuned……

Breaking News: Anchors Give Tearful Report

I live in Renton, Washington, a community just east of Seattle.  This morning, as I turned on the news I saw a stunning example of exceptional leadership by our local news station KOMO 4 – an ABC affiliate.

A news helicopter carrying a pilot and camera man had crashed very near the Space Needle, a downtown Seattle landmark.  Both men in the helicopter died.  In serious condition was a man in a car that the helicopter landed on.  
This helicopter was not owned by KOMO 4 News, but was contracted for use by the television network.  The men on the helicopter were not KOMO employees, but were well known by everyone at the television station.  The two men had personal relationships with most everyone in the news organization, and had been part of the KOMO family for years.
The accident happened at 7:40 am, just as the helicopter and crew had left the roof of the television station across from the Space Needle.  Employees of KOMO 4 News heard the crash.  They looked out their windows and saw the crash.  Every reporters dream is to be first on the scene.  KOMO reporters were not only first on the scene, they were the scene.
That segues into my purpose for writing this post.  
I have been writing in this blog, and in my book about the four characteristics of exceptional leadership that I’ve identified in my leadership experience.  The reporters and the anchor men and women of KOMO 4 News have been amazing examples of the first of those four characteristics. 
Those words are the first elements of achieving exceptional leadership.  They are an acronym: S.E.L.F.  Exceptional leadership starts with self.
Besides wanting to be the first on the scene, any news organization faces tremendous competition to be the first to report the details of an accident or incident.  Being the one to “break” the story or the details is all-consuming for reporters and news crews.
That is why it was so moving for me to watch KOMO 4 News anchor Dan Lewis and others report on this story, knowing full well who had died in the crash.
Dan and other anchors, with tears in their eyes reported for three hours about “the two men who died” in the crash.  They did not provide the names of these men.  My understanding (although not confirmed information) is that Dan Lewis was at the airport when the accident happened.  He was boarding a plane to go interview President Obama – a sure feather in the cap of any news anchor.
Dan Lewis sacrificed the interview of his life to return to the news station and report on the death of “his KOMO 4 family members”, as he stated more than once.  Can you imagine not only losing a close friend or family member, but having to go on television and talk about it without identifying the individual(s)?  Sacrifice indeed.
I give enormous credit to KOMO 4 News, Dan Lewis, Molly Shen, Eric Johnson, and even Brad Goode and Liz Dueweke (who were on air when the accident took place).  You are all exceptional leaders who have mastered the characteristic of sacrifice.  Thanks for coming into my living room and so eloquently and professionally reporting a personal tragedy when your hearts were breaking.

For up to the minute details of the helicopter crash please click here: KOMO 4 News

4 Ways To Be An ACTION Hero

facts tell us what to do and how to do it, but it is our humanity that tells us
that we must DO something, and why we must do it
~ Sully Sullenberger

On January 15, 2009, Sully Sullenberger DID
something courageous that resulted in something miraculous.  That was the day
 U.S. Airways Flight 1549 took off from LaGuardia Airport in New York, struck some birds on its assent, and lost both engines.

But a “Miracle on the Hudson” occurred when the plane was successfully guided to a safe landing in the Hudson River off Manhattan by Capt. Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger and co-pilot Jeff Skiles.

All 155 people on board were saved because swift and sure action was taken!

Looking back on that day, Sully told CBS This Morning on the 5th Anniversary of the miracle, It was one of those events, in the first couple of seconds, I knew it was going to be unlike anything I had ever experienced. It was going to define my life into before and after.”

Sully was quickly labeled a hero, and he certainly was. The Guild of Air pilots and Air Navigators awarded Sully and the entire crew of Flight 1549 a Master’s Medal. The citation read:

The reactions of all members of the crew, the split second decision making and the handling of this emergency and evacuation was ‘text book’ and an example to us all. To have safely executed this emergency ditching and evacuation, with the loss of no lives, is a heroic and unique aviation achievement. It deserves the immediate recognition that has today been given by the Guild of Air Pilots and Air Navigators

It is clear that the crew reacted to the emergency as they had practiced in training.  However, Sully had not only logged 19,000+ hours in airplanes, but he was also a glider pilot.  It was the know-how of flying glider planes, and Sully’s quick action that resulted in the miraculous outcome on that particular day.

Sully Sullenberger is an ACTION HERO!  

Your ACTIONs can make you an ACTION HERO, too!  Here’s how:

1. Participate in activities that empower you.

Never confuse movement with action” ~ Ernest Hemmingway

“Busy” people are not necessarily successful people.  “Busy” doesn’t empower you or make you wealthy.  You must take the right action to progress forward.

Take time to analyze how you spend your time, and decide if your actions are really helping you to go where you want to go.  

2. Be on the offensive side of action – not the defensive side.

The possibilities are numerous once we decide to act and not react” ~ George Bernard Shaw

If you spend your time always “catching up” and not “moving up”, then your actions will likely not make you heroic.  Sully Sullenberger and the other crew members were expected to react in the way that they did during the flight emergency in 2009.  But Sully surely could not have foreseen that his time in glider planes would ever be used to safely land a jetliner. Sully Sullenberger saved 155 people because he acted from knowledge and experience instead of simply reacting from training. 

Take time to analyze whether you are making decisions defensively, or if you’re taking action that will lead to more positive action.

3. Don’t wait for _______, just take a step forward from where you are.

Action conquers fear” ~ Peter Nivio Zarlenga

Zarlenga also said, “The difficulty of every individual who ever desired to achieve something worthwhile, comes in the movement“. 

I have been in a place where fear created so much fog, that I wasn’t sure which direction I should step in.  I learned that the direction didn’t matter as much as the action to simply start moving.  You can always get back on track if you head in the wrong direction, but there IS NO progress in a stand still.

Take time to analyze your fears.  Face those fears.  Make a move offensively. Do it scared.  Just DO IT.

4. Do something unpredictable and vary your experiences.

If you only do what you know you can, you never do very much” ~ Tom Krause

Try something everyday that you’re not convinced you can do.  You’ll have one of two results:

1. You’ll do it, and now you’ll KNOW you can do it! You’ll be an ACTION HERO.

2. You won’t be able to do it, and now you’ll KNOW where you need to grow.  Your decision to grow will make you an ACTION HERO.  

Just like Sully Sullenberger relying on his glider experience, you may never know where your simple action will take you; OR how it may save the life of another. 

Remember, “…it is our humanity that tells us that we must DO something, and why we must do it”

Today is the day to define your life into

 “before” and “after”.

No matter what life throws at you, you can

 always be an