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Three Ways to Become One of the Cool Kids, Part III

The three P’s of Empowerment are:

  • Preparedness
  • Principles
  • Promises

My most recent posts have been about becoming one of the cool kids after my District 2 win in the International Speech Contest. In case you’ve missed them: Part 1  Part 2

This post focuses on the third P – Promises.

PROMISES:

Promises and commitments are harbingers of happiness. Empowerment happens when we live true to the promises and commitments we make.

In the midst of my childhood and experience with abuse; and even into the healing phase of my abuse years later, I always knew if I just made good decisions that I would have a chance to be happy. I counted on blessings from God if I obeyed His will. I also felt that if I didn’t keep my promises to Him, that I would be forfeiting possible blessings.

That being said, I have had many trials. In fact, it seems that I’ve had more challenges than most. But maybe we all feel that way. In the midst of these challenges, I’ve wondered when the blessings were going to come. I was preparing as best I could; I was living by my values and principles; l was doing good for/to others – when would I be blessed?

There is a song written by Ryan Miller, Adam Gardner and Brian Rosenworcel that fits my life, and even the current situation I’m in as I prepare for the next level of speech competition in Las Vegas to an international audience. These three men just happen to be members of my favorite alternative pop band, GUSTER.

I share with you the words of this song, with an opportunity to listen to them as well. Can you tell why this song might have some appeal to me?


 “ALL THE WAY UP TO HEAVEN

He said to only look up; He said to never look down

Down is where we came from

He said to hope for the best; and take a load off my chest

Soon I could be happy

And go all the way up to heaven; and go all the way back home

He thought I might need his help; no one gets high on themselves

I just seemed so lonely

He’s just trying to be nice; and spread around his advice

I could be that happy

And go all the way up to heaven; and go all the way back home

Stay the way I am today, it’s certain more disaster

He can tell a fairy tale, it’s happily ever after

Just relax, and greener grass will grow here for a change

Maybe then we’ll last a million years or more, or more, or more, or more

And go all the way up to heaven; and go all the way back home

Yes, I do believe what He says

I want to be happy

I could sure use His help; no one gets by on themselves

He can make me happy

And I will always look up (It’s a warm summer breeze)

And I will never look down (it’s weakness in your knees)

Down is where we came from (It’s a perfect place above – full of everlasting love)

And I will take that advice (Nothing to fear; nothing to hide)

And take a load off my chest (You just say what’s on your mind)

We could make that happy (Needn’t think before you speak. This is how it’s meant to be)

You know we needed his help (Ever high, never fall)

Now we’re not high on ourselves (you can do no wrong at all)

I will know that happy (In this heaven up above filled with everlasting love)

Into the light

To the light


So many parts of this song are sung right to me. The day before the competition I came down with laryngitis. I’ve never had it so bad. Based on advice from others I drank teas with lemon and honey, and I sucked on zinc lozenges. I drank hot water with vinegar, lemon and honey, and I took anti-inflammatory medications. All this to no avail. The morning of the contest I was no better.

I tried to speak as little as possible. I could not practice my speech out loud, but only meditate and visualize myself on stage saying what I’d practiced. At competition time, my throat and chest had loosened and opened. My voice was not as strong as I’d hoped, but the microphone made up for the rest.

I’m so glad I was able to deliver my message, albeit in a different way than I’d imagined. Perhaps it was the sexy, low voice I had that influenced the judges.

Guster’s song reminds me that I had to depend on a greater strength than my own. I believe that was Father in Heaven. He kept a promise to bless me despite the trials and challenges that came that day. He helped me deliver a message about fairy tales that perhaps He’d prepared me to give my entire life. I needed His help, because I could not get by on myself.

As I move forward in the competition, I will only look up. I will never look down. Whatever happens, I will take His advice and try to be happy.

Promises. We’ve all made them. We all must keep them. When your promises are kept to others, you will be given assurance of promises kept to you from a power greater than yourself.

Empowerment comes through the the three P’s:

  • Preparedness
  • Principles
  • Promises

Please comment below about how these areas have empowered you.

Empowerment is the E in the acronym SELF in SELF Centered Leadership: Becoming Influential, Intentional and Exceptional. If you haven’t read it yet, I encourage you to do so. Perhaps my message will provide some ways for you to empower your life as you try to be one of the COOL KIDS!